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If you have recently broken up with your boyfriend, I am sure all you can think about is "how can I get my ex boyfriend back?" Break-ups affect everyone differently especially if you are the one being broken up with. Even so, there are some tips that you need to know to help you get your ex boyfriend back.

- First, be nice. Nagging, complaining or bickering will not make your boyfriend want to get back together. So if it does not work, do not do it. You will be tempted to do just this...blaming, fighting and nagging but do not fall victim to the temptation.

Show your ex boyfriend a "new side of you," a gentler, emotionally controlled and fun to be with, you. This may peak his interest and make him pay attention to something he has not seen in you in a while. Do not be overbearingly pleasant, but be nice when you see or talk with him so he will want more.

If you are having to strain to be nice to your ex boyfriend, then he might not be the one for you anyway. Calm down and think about the importance of your relationship. If you "really love him," being nice will be easier. If you are having to pretend to be nice or love your ex boyfriend, then the relationship may not be salvageable. In that case, move on.

Look at the relationship. Did you take him for granted? If so, then admit it and if given the chance to get back together, do not let this happen again. If your ex boyfriend took you for granted, do not remind him of this while you are trying to get back together. You cannot change others, you can only change yourself. So decide if it is worth the relationship to make a change in yourself.

- Is it possible to get your ex boyfriend back if he has a new girlfriend? This can be a difficult but not impossible situation to overcome. You may find it hard, if not almost impossible to be alone with your ex boyfriend. Even then his attention may not be on you or your concerns.

You must be nice and remind him of what you were like when he first fell for you. Think back to when you first got together. What did he like about you that attracted him to you to begin with? It worked once; if he saw these qualities in you again he may become interested again.

- Can you get your ex boyfriend back by tricking him? This can be disastrous, so do not do it. No matter how innocent and small the deception seems, it can come back to haunt you. One lie leads to another and before you know it you cannot remember all the lies that you have told to him or others.

When it all blows up, it hurts your ex boyfriend and others. Even if you do succeed in getting him back, when he discovers the lies or tricks you will just lose him again. All that trouble for nothing, it is not worth it.

- Will making your ex boyfriend jealous work? It might or might not work. If you try this tactic, be careful. If it does not work and he thinks that you have moved on, it will only push him farther away. If you feel you need to date and you do want to get back together with your ex boyfriend, then do so but do not rub it in his face. However, if you are only dating to make your ex boyfriend jealous, then it is unfair to your ex boyfriend and your date.

These are some initial steps to take to get your ex boyfriend back. There are more in-depth tips to consider to "get your ex boyfriend back" and develop a step-by-step plan.