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Okay the break-up has happened, but is the relationship really over? I know that if you have recently had a break-up in your relationship, then you are asking yourself this very question. As time goes by, depression and loneliness set in and suddenly so does the realization that the relationship is really over. But if you are asking yourself the question "how can I get my ex back," then there are some things that you need to know. If you keep your "cool" and do not react in a way that will drive your ex farther away, then there is a chance that you can get back together with your ex.

It is very hard to keep a cheerful and optimistic attitude after having a break-up in a meaningful relationship. It has been shown by relationship experts that a positive and confident attitude can raise the chances of getting a relationship back together. Let us see how an optimistic attitude can help you "get your ex back."

- Keeping your confidence levels high. If you are serious about getting your ex back, then you should keep a confident attitude that the reunion will happen. Rather than dwelling on the negative, find things to do that will cheer you up, something fun that you like to do. You must do whatever you can to fight off the feelings of depression and keep an optimistic attitude. It is best for your ex to know that you are strong and will not let the break-up defeat you and put you in the doldrums. Once your ex finds out that you are capable of handling the break-up and you are emotionally strong, then he/she will be attracted back toward you.

- Be socially active. Surround yourself with positive and enthusiastic friends. Do not hang out with friends that have a negative attitude and bigger problems than you have yourself. You do not need to be the bearer of the world's problems right now. You have enough of your own to handle. As more people see that you have not let the break-up get you down and break you, then it will not be long before it gets back to your ex. Your ex will begin to see you in a different light, will want to communicate with you again and may realize that he/she made a mistake. Being happy and out in public with great friends is one of the best ways to get your ex's curiosity up.

- Look good. Do not let the break-up affect your dress and appearance. You need to make sure that your clothes, shoes, haircut, skin and walk look good. Even your voice should sound great. Focus on every detail so that others see it and you may even run into your ex along the way. If you are happy and cheery, it will be hard to be overlooked. It is hard to keep this positive attitude especially when you are depressed, but this is one of the best ways to give your ex the "shock and awe" effect. One of the first things that will run through your ex's mind is "how can you be looking and acting so good...what are you up to?" This will build mystery, intrigue and attraction to draw him/her back to you.

Give the attitude that in order to get back together the two of you will act civil and mature, if you are to get back together at all. Your attitude and actions will show your ex a new and improved you.