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Okay there was a BIG blow up and your feelings were hurt and her feelings were hurt. Now what? After calming down, you realize you really do love your ex girl friend and you want to get her back. But what do you do or say to get her back without making the situation worse? Find out what to do to next to get your ex girlfriend back.

You must have a game plan to get your ex girlfriend back. Here are some steps to consider when formulating your plan.

- Did you cause the breakup? First, decide what really caused the breakup. Women love security and do not usually break up from a relationship for no reason. It is probably something that you did or did not do. So decide what went wrong, how it could have been prevented and how you can fix it. It may be as simple as saying you are sorry and meaning it or it can be much, much deeper.

- If the cause of the breakup is something you said or did, then the first step is to apologize. Say and show that you are truly sorry. Let her know you recognize what you did and what you are willing to do to prevent it from happening again.

- Going out is okay. You need to socialize. Do not hibernate. Go out and have fun even if you are still trying to get back with your ex girlfriend. It is okay to date, but do not do it to belittle or antagonize your ex girlfriend. A little jealousy might induce your ex girlfriend to want to talk or go out again, but do not push it too far. It might backfire. Date or go out with other women to have fun. To be fair, if you still want to get back together with your ex girlfriend, let your date know that you are just going out for fun, no strings attached.

- It is okay to show your ex girlfriend that you are moving on, but you still care for her. If she sees that you are getting past the breakup and possibly moving on, she may become more interested in you. She may fear that if she wants to get back together later, she may lose that chance. This feeling could cause her to want to talk or go out some now just to keep the tie. Use this to your advantage.

- Be friendly with your ex girlfriend. Show her that she can lean on you if she needs you. Let her know even if you two are not together, she can still count on you. She will start to trust you and want to be around you more. As we all know, friendships can blossom into relationships.

As the friendship grows, ask her the real reason for the breakup. Do not be too pushy with the conversation, just keep it casual and non-threatening. She may open up and give you the real reason for ending the relationship or may admit that she made a mistake breaking up with you. Once you have this answer, then you can better formulate your plan to get your ex girlfriend back.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your ex girlfriend back. You must take additional steps if you really want to get her back. The next steps are easy to follow and can help you complete your plan to get your ex girlfriend back.