Friday, October 30, 2009
Confidence is a must when it comes to what women want. They want a man who is confident and takes the lead. They want to know that the man can handle his own and not doubt his identity. A confident man that carries himself well is very sexy to a woman.
Affection is also on the top of the list of what a woman wants in a man. Most women love displays of affection, public and private. We love hand holding, you putting your arm around us or the back of our chair. It tells us you claim us as yours and we find that powerful. Stolen kisses are good too.
We also want to feel secure. We want to know that you can not only take care of yourself, but you can take care of us as well. It does not mean we need you to take care of us financially, although we do want you to be motivated and have goals in life. We want to know that you will defend us, take up for us, and stand beside us and be proud of us.
Being heard and understood is also a big one when it comes to what a woman wants in a man. "He just does not listen" is one of the top complaints from women. We want you to listen to us. If we are discussing a problem or obstacle, we want you to hear us. We know you like to fix things, but we don't want you to fix it, we want you to pay attention and listen. When a man does this, it is the world to a woman.
Monday, October 5, 2009
So you have finally gotten to a point in your life where you want to find that special someone, or maybe you just got through a divorce and are suddenly back in the game, or you might still be married or involved and just have a very hard time understanding your partner. How can you tell if your date is being open to you? How can you make yourself appear more open?
For thousands of years animals, including humans, have relied on body language to provide valuable information to the instincts, letting them know immediately whether they are facing friend of foe, whether they need to fight or flee. While most people have great control over their words, few are equally in control of their body language and micro-expressions (the little movements in the face and eyes which provide insight into a person's thoughts or feelings). Before I get too much into this I must caveat: no single expression in body language means unequivocally one thing, rather it is the sum of like actions that you will be looking for. Do not get worked too hard around the axle because you saw one thing that might mean something you do not like.
Body language is the easiest area to read since it relies on large movements of major body parts. Essentially, if the person is open the body is open and if they are closed the body is closed. A few things to look for include:
1) Crossed arms and legs. When people are uncomfortable or unsure they naturally move into a modification of the fetal position. They pull their extremities in close and hunch slightly, leaning away.
Whether this is because they are uncomfortable in the setting or uncomfortable with you will take some determination. If it happened immediately after you said or did something, it's a pretty safe bet it's you. Try backing off slightly; opening up your own posture and giving them room to do the same.
2) Open arms, leaning forward. This is the opposite of being crossed and tight. When a person is comfortable and interested, they will lean toward their date, possibly even seeking little opportunities to touch your arm or leg and sidle closer.
This is what you are looking for, when you see it try to slightly mimic their actions. Do not do everything exactly like they do, but some slight mimicry tells their subconscious that you are like-minded with them and that you are a friend.
3) Fidgeting. Some people are just naturally nervous, especially on first dates. We all recognize the meaning of fidgeting, but you might not know how to help ease your date.
First, do not call attention to whatever they are doing; this only makes them more uncomfortable. Instead change the topic of discussion, probing for something that that they are passionate about, something that they will get excited about. Open up but let them keep their space until they loosen.
Micro-expressions are much more difficult to detect, but are more telling. We rely extensively on what a person's face is telling us because those motions are naturally more difficult to control. The same basic principles of open and closed apply. More importantly, however, you are looking for tense or strained muscles. A few specific things to look for here:
1) Closed expression. When a person is uncomfortable, many of the muscle groups in their face tense up. The cheek muscles will stand out slightly, the muscles around the eyes will pull inward, and their eyebrows will pull down. They may try to fake a more open expression, smiling with their lips but not with their eyes as we say. When faking an open expression, the muscles just strain harder. In a faked smile the teeth will generally remain together, perhaps clenching.
If your date is maintaining a closed expression, focus on your own. We mimic facial expressions quicker than body language movements, so try to maintain a loose openness in your own face despite what your date is doing.
2) Open expression. Think Santa Claus and you have an open expression. When the muscles relax around the mouth and eyes you know they are not feeling threatened or uncomfortable. No matter the emotion that is being exhibited on the face - happiness, sadness, anger, etc. - the muscles will be relaxed in the face if they are being open and wearing their true emotion. The cheek muscles slacken, the eyes muscles relax, and the teeth come apart.
To keep your date open just keep your own face open, again applying some slight mimicry here. You don't have to make an effort to turn sadness into happiness; you simply have to focus on getting them into this open state where whatever emotion they are expressing is their true emotion.
There are many things you can learn from the micro-expressions and body language of your date. In some fields, especially sales, it is a matter of professional interest to learn these things because it helps the salesman make the slight adjustments in his pitch to keep you interested. On a date we are all salesmen, right? Good luck in your endeavors, and remember there's always more information out there, study up.
Attitude is your most priceless possession, one of your most valuable assets. To a great extent, it determines the overall quality of your life.
In this climate of uncertainty , I am convinced more than ever that people need to know that having an ongoing positive attitude toward your business associates and customers is key to success. They assume you'll give them a great big "thank you" after you give them a referral or buy your product. However, do you keep that attitude of gratitude throughout the relationship, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health?
If you're managing a team, you need to help your team members internalize a sense of loyalty to their customers, a loyalty that comes from relationship marketing. It gives your team a positive attitude that can get them through most situations - no matter how challenging.
Here are some simple tactics that will allow you to develop a consistent positive attitude and build loyalty with customers as well as team members and business associates.
1. Serve your customers. Put customers' needs before anything else. Perhaps your customers rely on your product or service after normal business hours. Therefore, give them your cell and home phone numbers. This is like giving them an insurance policy; it's unlikely they will ever call you at home, but it's reassuring.
2. Feel comfortable with casual calls. Think of reasons to call customers with new information and ideas, unrelated to selling or marketing, just to stay in contact. Good friends always enjoy hearing from each other, even if it's just to say hello. An attitude of informal interactions is a major building block in customer relationships.
3. Prove dependability. Too many fall short in this area. Make sure to keep promises and honor guarantees. Customers love to hear "I'll take full responsibility for that," and, "Consider it done." Faithful salespeople yield faithful customers.
4. Give thanks even for bad news. We usually celebrate successful deals and let our clients know how much their business means to us. What happens when we lose an order or the client's cash flow limits their buying power? Do we say, "Too bad, let's move on to where the money is?" In my virtual assistant business, like most businesses, not every proposal provides me with new income. Even with the rejections, I show appreciation by sending a note of thanks for their consideration. This has resulted in unexpected business later.
Remember that real wealth is measured not by what you have, not by where you are, but by the spirit that lives within you. Success is an attitude.
Looking For a Date? - Bring Your Dog Into the Picture
0 comments Posted by EMPORI_EXCHANGE at 10:10 PM
A Job For Your Dog -- Dogs Are Natural Ice Breaker and Conversation Maker .... and Great at Making Contact with Strangers
While some singles might think that dating is for the dogs, the smart dog loving singles know that their furry friend can help them meet the right mate or make new friends. Sit at an outdoor patio of a cafe or a restaurant with your dog and chances are someone will come and talk to ... your dog and you .... about your dog and dogs in general.
So if you are looking for a new romance, the ideal mate or just make new friends, this is the time to let your canine friend open doors for you.
Dog Dating 101 in 3 Steps
- Find outdoor venues where you can bring your dog such as a restaurant with sidewalk seating. Obviously you need to be completely positive that your dog can behave himself, lie down, sit quietly under the table or beside your chair.
- Let your pup work his dog charm. Those cute eyes will stop any dog lover in their tracks for a deserving itch behind the dog's ears. This is not the only cuteness they have, dogs love to wag those tails and be excited for anything that looks like food.
- Once your potential date stops to look at your dog this is your cue where you strike up a conversation. Since the dog stopped them you need to bring yourself into the picture.
Your first connections are obviously that the individual likes dogs and shops at a location that you frequent as well. This provides a common ground found in other possible chance meetings.
Sometimes this takes several tries to find an available individual, so repeat as needed. Let me tell you it is far less brutal than the dating scene and you really can meet nice people.
Make sure you reward your dog after the first person so they repeat they cute behavior. Dog treats work well. Places for you and your dog to hang out include bagel stores, Dog Runs, Starbucks and other coffee shops, dog park, dog training classes and pretty much anywhere you can bring your dog with you.
Catherine Potin is passionate about dogs and gain a lot of dog wisdom and experience from her 4 legged friend Timba and all the dogs in her life. She offers free dog training tips and resources from various experts so you too can understand and train your pooch better. If you are looking for dog training online resources, clicker training for dogs, tips to train your dog at home or wellness information, check out Happydogconnections.
Sunday, October 4, 2009
For a guy, making a woman to desire you as much as you desire her or even more is not as hard as rocket science. In fact, rocket science is very far from it because it is not hard at all provided you know what to do. In order for a guy to totally enjoy any relationship that he goes into, there must exist in that relationship what is simply known as mutual desire. Without this mutual desire, the relationship will no doubt be very one-sided and most times the lady does have control of the advantageous part of the sides. In any case, we shall be discussing three vital tips that a man can use to make a woman desire him more.
Tip 1 – Confidence
It is often said that “you are addressed by how you dress”, so how confident you are when you are with the woman in question goes a long in determining how she addresses you. High self confidence has a magical way of endearing women to men, those who have realized this have regularly taken advantage of its powers to woo and seduce very attractive women. However, do not misconstrue self confidence with arrogance because both of them produce extremely opposite results. While the former can instantly turn you into an ultimate women magnet, the latter produces catastrophic results and can often turn you into the ultimate women repellent.
Tip 2 – Be The Unique You
Nobody can be you better than you, as soon as you acquire the above discussed self-confidence, you should easily become a more efficient you. When you approach a lady, ensure that you flow with the conversation as a natural you rather than coughing out all those memorized pick up lines which have mostly become obsolete and more often than not do not fit into the context under discuss at that particular time.
Tip 3 – Lighten Up Her Mood
The third and final tip in this article is to always do things that would lighten up her mood. Put up a smiling face regularly and concentrate on getting her to laugh often. Mind you, by getting her to laugh often, I mean you should do things that would make her laugh with you rather than at you.
Saturday, October 3, 2009
What Alpha Males Have That You Need - The Easy Way to Date Hot Women!
0 comments Posted by EMPORI_EXCHANGE at 10:44 AM
If you aren't having any luck with your dating life, it is time to take a look at your attitude. You need to prove your hidden strength. If you are sick & tired of spending the night alone, this is what you need. Your coolness will be compelling to chicks when you establish you are the alpha man.
I preach from lots of trial and error. For so long I couldn't work out what other guys had that I did not, so I began reading about what is the thing that makes guys attractive to women.
Everything that I researched pointed to a definite answer. All I needed to do was to get in touch with my actual nature and draw out the alpha male in me. As soon as I did the results were even more surprising than I had anticipated.
I no longer my nights lonely. It is possible do the same change that I did.
Do you wonder why the alpha male so desirable to women? The answer is simple, confidence. It's really that simple.
A guy filled with self-confidence will attract attention all around the room. While you want to look your best, that's not necessarily what attracts women. Women need their man to make them feel protected. They look for a man that is self-assured and brave.
Today is the time to recognize that you are an alpha male.
Are you ready to be secure enough to invite any woman out? Can't you see changing your situation from alone to full of girls? Is your social time waiting for a confident better version of you?
Today is the day for you to become an Alpha Man.
You can get a hot girl tonight...
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Are you wondering how to approach a random girl? There is something about approaching girl groups that can make a guy sweat in all the wrong places. With girl groups being so intimidating, start simply with one girl at a time.
Most of us know that a guy who can't make a simple approach is going to have a difficult time with every other aspect of girls and dating.
We tend to make it more difficult than it really is in our minds. We don't give ourselves enough room for error. Leaving a small margin of error for near misses and total bombs helps you develop the skills and the practice that is necessary for ultimate success.
Approaching girls doesn't have to be quite distressing. But just like anything else the more you practice the better you'll get at it. Just because you're approaching a girl doesn't mean you have to ask her out. It just means that you want to strike up a conversation or just simply leave her with a simple compliment.
The less invested in the outcome, the easier it is to practice your approach. Starting with girls that are maybe not your ideal woman can help calm you down. What makes the approach so difficult is that we don't want to blow our shot. If we're not really all that worked up about how she responds the easier it is to practice.
Being sincere but giving her a compliment is not a bad way to get started. If you stumble through the process, bear in mind that many women find a flustered guy to be attractive. You are practicing in order to build up your confidence. The more confident you are the easier this potentially palm sweaty experience will be.
As you build up your confidence you will find that you're ready to graduate from compliments and conversation starters to asking a woman out for coffee or a drink on the spot. As time passes and you realize that approaching girls is just an acquired skill, you will be the guy that other guys ask for advice.
In order to pick up beautiful women, or any woman for that matter, you need confidence, as women are attracted to confident guys. No matter what you believe, the truth is that women find a confident man very attractive.
Confidence is almost like a love potion to women; ask just about any woman what they want in a man and confidence with be one of the first things they say. Confidence will be on their list and it is usually in the top five. You may be wondering why this is so important when you want to pick up beautiful women. You may even remember at some point in your life where one woman had two guys after her; perhaps one guy was the "good guy" and the other was the "bad guy". The "good guy" was nice to her. The "bad guy" was, well not so nice.
The good guy would take her out on nice dates to dinner and movies and buy her nice gifts. The good guy would treat her well and be nice to her. But the good guy never got the "good stuff" he really wanted. He never got her love or affection. No kissing, no touching, and certainly no sex. Yet he would manage to pick up beautiful women all the same.
The reason has nothing to do with whether women want to be treated poorly or not; and the reason has nothing to do with whether women want excitement in their life or not. The deeper reason has to do with confidence; the more confidence that a man exudes the more he has the ability to reason has nothing to do with whether women want to be treated poorly or not; and the deeper reason has nothing to do with whether women want excitement in their life or not. The deeper reason has to do with confidence; the more confidence a man exudes the more he is able to pick up beautiful women.
This is a proven fact. Stick to what this article has taught you, and you'll do fine.
Here are several tips to pick up women for the shy guy, because if you are a shy guy, you probably need some help with dating tips right now.
The first shy guy dating tip is to make being shy work for you; a lot of shy guys think dating success is only possible if they try to be something they are not. Many women actually like the shy approach; in other words, you are your own worst enemy because you are paralyzed with fear and insecurity - but all of that is just in your head - you will surprise yourself if you act in the face of fear and find that your worst fears do not have to come true as long as you have a few tips to pick up women.
The second of the shy guy dating tips to pick up women is called "borrowing confidence", because the opposite of shyness is confidence and women love confidence. It can help to think of someone who has the kind of confidence you really wish you had: who could that be? Would it be someone you know personally? Would it be a fictional person like James Bond, agent 007? Would it be a famous person you've seen on TV? Pick that person and practice acting like that person. It will feel strange at first, but don't worry about that because that part will not matter. What matters is that you can use this simple but extremely powerful technique to take on new behaviors that will really become your own after a very short period of time.
Following these tips to pick up women will help to build up your confidence and allow you to approach and date the women that you previously felt were unapproachable.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Do you wonder how it is you can grow in your relationship and make him fall in love with everything about you? Do you long for a relationship that is true, deep, and meaningful? Are you ready to move on with life and love and build the relationship that is worth having? You can use the tips to help you grow in your relationship and make him fall in love with you.
Be Yourself.
Relax a little and make sure that you are yourself around him. Sometimes this is hard to do when you first begin. However, it is a must because if you aren't and he will feel bad when he finds out that you haven't been yourself and you haven't been upfront with him. It feels deceitful if you hid the real you!
Build Your Friendship.
It is important that in order to grow in your relationship you will need to work on being his friend. Get him to talk to you. Let him get to know you. Have fun together so that you can build the relationship. You will want to work on this regularly because friendship is a huge part of a relationship that lasts. Spend time together enjoying life.
Build Up Your Positive Thinking Personality.
It is easy to get negative. When we do our self confidence goes down, we find it difficult to remain sunny, and we are often not a whole lot of fun to be around. However, if you work on banishing negative thoughts and you add positive thoughts to your life then you will find that you will give him something he can't help but fall in love with. This is particularly important for growing in your relationship.
If you work to grow in your relationship you will make him fall in love with you. You need to be yourself, build your friendship, and work on positive thinking.
Can you have plus sized love with the man of your dreams? Are only skinny girls able to attract the man of their dreams? Do you have what it takes to be attractive to a wide range of men? The answer is YES! You can attract the man of your dreams and have plus sized love.
Build Your Self Confidence.
If you sit down and take the time to list the things you like about yourself, be it physically, mentally, emotionally, or giftedness than you would realize just how much you have to offer. This is the first thing you should do to build your self confidence. You are a beautiful person and when you start to realize that you will show others that as well.
Some Guys Love Plus Sized Women.
There is a whole group of men out there who love plus sized women. If you have self confidence in yourself you will radiate inner beauty and you can attract a lot of men. Just remember that not all men are shallow!
Be Positive.
It is a lot easier to be positive when you are enjoy life and when you have some self confidence. If you are a positive person you will be fun to be around and this in itself will attract more people (both men and women).
Be Patient.
It is easy to get frustrated when you are hoping for plus sized love, or any love for that matter. You aren't alone and there are lots of women of all shapes and sizes who struggle to be patient. However, this is very important.
You need to build your self confidence, realize that some guys love plus sized women, be positive, and be patient. You can find plus sized love and attract the man of your dreams!
Seal the Deal - What You Need to Know to Make Him Fall in Love
0 comments Posted by EMPORI_EXCHANGE at 12:10 PMAre you ready to seal the deal? Ready to move on into a deeper part of your relationship? Do you want to know what you will make him fall in love with you? Do you long for a real relationship that is full of love? You can learn what you need to know to make him fall in love with you and seal the deal.
Love Does Not Equal Lust.
Often times lust, sexual attraction, and even a sexual relationship gets mixed up together with the idea of love. This is really easy for a man to do, but often women think that he must love her because he wants her. This can happen because it is harder for a woman to have sex without love. The best thing to do is to keep sex out of it for awhile so that love can grow before sex gets in the way.
Touch His Heart.
It is important that you work on touching his heart. You want good feelings to come to the surface when he is around you. Make this happen by being positive in his presence, having fun with him, and being there when he needs a friend.
Build Your Friendship.
Somewhere along the line the rumor that if you and him were friends it would kill the romance. However, this isn't the case. Love and romance can be a part of a great relationship, but friendship is also an important part of it. Work on becoming his friend. By becoming his friend you will be working to seal the deal.
Let Him Be Slow.
Men often drag their feet when it comes to relationships. It takes time for them to be sure. They aren't willing to jump on it and even if they are in love they want to make sure. Let him be slow and give him the space he needs to make the steps that it takes to get from here to there.
You can get him to fall in love and seal the deal. You just need to be patient. Recognized that love and lust are different, touch his heart, become his friend, and give him the space he needs to let it all grow. Then he will come to you with more!
Do you wonder how you can strengthen your relationship? Do you want something that lasts longer than many relationships? Are you looking into the future and desiring to see a specific man by your side? You can use these tips to strengthen your relationship and make it something long term.
Avoid building a relationship based on lust.
Lust is something easy to come by and even easier to come by if you are a man. Sex gets the engines revving, but it isn't the same as love. The problem is that it is easy for a man to think he is in love when he is just in lust. You need to make sure you are building a relationship based on real emotions and not just sexual desires. The easiest way to do that is to hold off on having sex. However you can work on it even after a physical relationship has started. You will just need to proceed with caution and work on building an emotional bond.
Build an emotional bond.
A physical bond is an easy one. The emotional one is a lot harder to develop, but also much more important. You will want to work on building an emotional bond by becoming his friend. Talk with him, listen to him, and spend time with him.
Make them good times.
Touching a man's emotional self is the key to his heart. To do this you will want to spend time with him, and make them really good times. Have fun with him, laugh, go new places, try new things, and be a bright and positive person. This in turn will touch his emotional self positively and with these little nudges he will move toward a committed relationship that is strong and built for long term.
Be patient with him.
Women can jump into love and enjoy doing it. Men need to take it slow. If you want to strengthen your relationship you will want to wait for him to move the pace along. Let him lead how fast your go.
Strengthen your relationship and work toward building something that lasts is really important. You don't want to make him feel pushed. Instead, sit back and enjoy the process. Have fun spending time with him and becoming his friendThursday, September 24, 2009
When we are in love the world looks different. Everything looks good. We look at the world differently then those who are not in love. We love everything. The flowers smell better, the food tastes better, and the nature looks benevolent. How about our body? What kind of changes does love bring in our body?
The hearty is considered center of love. Every poet who has written on love talks of heart. I do not know if heart has anything to do with love- at least no medical professional will agree to that. For them the heart is only a pumping machine for blood. But for lovers heart becomes the center.
If you are in love, have you observed your heart beats? Do they not increase when you think of your lover? Does your heart not beat much faster when you are waiting to meet them? How about the heart beats when you are with them. The heart seems to beat much faster at that time, isn't it? That is why poets write so much about heart.
That is why all Valentine decorations are heart shaped. the heart goes berserk when you are in love. It is as if it has forgotten about its pumping function and got busier expressing love. A look at the picture of your lover makes the heart beat faster. A touch, smell of their body, their voice, all can accelerate the heart. I do not know if any body has done any research about why heart behaves like this. Do emotions come from heart? Must be so otherwise whythe heart acts funny when we are in love?
Our walks become slower, we begin speaking in low voice, begin listening to slow love tunes, we begin caring more about our appearance and we become gentle with everyone around us. Why all this- because we are in love. Truly, being in love is a great feeling.
Monday, September 21, 2009
Did any poet who wrote about romance ever dream that love and romance would one day become part of the field of medical studies? But that is happening. Those in passionate romantic love, experience sweaty palms and butterflies in the stomach. A study has found that it is the result of rise in a protein called nerve growth factors.
Will a day come when we will get these proteins from our druggists and experience romantic love? I am just joking about that, but it may also turn out to be true. An Italian study has found that this growth factor declines after a year or so after being in romance. Have you felt the difference between early phase and later phase of romance? That is all because of this chemical. Now whether our feelings change the level of the chemical or whether the body reduces the chemical may be subject of another research.
Another study has found that though passionate romance of high level may not last long, some passion may still last for years. That means that we may still love our partner romantically after years and years. Life would be so lovely if passion could be maintained for years and years. What do you think? I think that passionate romance is reduced by nature itself because those in early phase of romance feel like doing nothing else, while nature wants that they produce offspring, bring them up, search for food and carry on other mundane activities to maintain life. Nature is selfish - it always acts in a manner to protect itself.
The next time you fall in romance, get your level of nerve growth factors checked and when you start becoming normal again, get the level checked again. All romance will go away when you realize that a protein was all that was responsible.
