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Getting dumped is a massive blow to one's self confidence. It is very tempting to just get away from everything and wallow in your misery. While you're busy doing that, though, someone new might be pulling your ex further away from you. So if you want your ex back, you should not waste too much time. Have a good cry and then strategize. There are at least 4 mind games you can use to get your ex back in a relationship with you.

Focus on yourself - Keeping yourself presentable all the time and pampering yourself does wonders for your self esteem. If your ex sees how "together" you look despite the break-up, it might remind him why he got attracted to you in the first place.

Enjoy the unexpected free time - After the first couple of days of being miserable, call all your friends and go out as much as possible. If you're having fun and your ex finds out about it, then he just might realize that he wants to share all the exciting stuff with you.

Keep communication at a minimum - At least until he ends up calling you instead. It will give your ex enough time to wonder what you're up to and if you're better off without him. There's nothing wrong in sending him the odd text or a quick call every once in a while to see how he's doing, but keep them short and cheery.

Work the circle - Keep yourself visible among his circle of friends or relatives, but try to make it look effortless. If they see how well you're doing, they will definitely report all these nice things back to your ex. Who knows, you might even get a bit more support from them and that will only work to your advantage.