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Lesbian abuse in life together
I general there is misconception about lesbian relationships that they are imune from abusive actions. Its because it involves two women. Most people thing how can two women in relationship be abusive to each other. Actualy its quite a common promblem in lesbian relationship and a serious problem
Myth: Lesbian violence occurs only in "butch" & "femme" relationships.

Fact: Most lesbians do not assume explicitly butch-femme roles. The roles themselves do not automatically dictate who has more power and the desire to have more control in the relationship.


Myth: Abuse between lesbians equaly conributed by both sides.

Fact: Its becaus epople think that lesbian relationship is based on equal partnerships. In violent relationships, there is in most cases a perpetrator and a victim. A perpetrator cannot be distinguished by any features.


Myth: Abusive lesbian relationships involve apolitical lesbians and lesbians who are part of the lesbian bar culture.

Fact: Lesbian relationship violence is not distinguished by any type of lesbian such as: race, class, age, political affiliation, and interests.


Myth: Violence with lesbians is caused by substance abuse, childhood violence, stress or provocation.

Fact: Doe this may account for an abuser's patterns of abusive behavior, it cannot be said there issimple cause-and-effect relationship. Abusers Can control their behavior and have choices. Abusers assume responsibility for their actions; there's no justification or excuse for violence. There are all sorts of abusse;emotional, physical, mental,sexual, psychological and verbal. Usualy womman don't know she is beeing abused, because it happens gradualy. After some time, she realizes that she can't talk on her phone, have any friends, and in some cases her contact with family is limited.

According to Domestic Violence Research Center there are some signs helping recognize abuse -

* Feeling afraid of upsetting partner and changing behaviour to avoid it.
* Partner puting you down or humiliates you.
* Partner threatens to 'out' you to family or employers.
* Parthner constantly monitors what are you doeing.
* Parthner acts in an aggressive way towards you or damages what is yours.
* Parthner forces or pressures you to do sexual things which you don't like.
* parthner blames you for her behaviour.
* Parthner wants to have control over your money.
* Parthner threatens to hurt you, your family, or herself if you will leave her.

There are also other signs, which are different from case to case, but if any of the ones above are happening seek counseling, and try to get out of this relationship. Its difficult when it comes to action of realy doing it, but knowing it leads nowhere, should be easyer.