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What was it this time? You and your significant other break up because of another fight. You probably both said things you really did not mean, it just seems that no matter what you try to do, nothing seems to work. More than likely this is due to your approach - you are going about it all wrong. Here are some pointers that will get you and your ex back on track and hopefully on your way to a healthy and stronger relationship.

What you have to decide before going any further - do you really, I mean truly, want to get back with your ex? If you are not going to be 100% in this heart and soul, you are never going to get to a good place with your ex. Half the effort will only result in half the product. If and when you can say that you are in it completely, and willing to do whatever it takes, will you be ready to proceed. So are you?

Great! The next big step is about being the bigger person. Be willing to own up to your mistakes and accept blame for what has happened. You might want to place all the blame on them, this is normal. You are hurt, probably confused and the emotional rollercoaster you are riding has your head spinning. By admitting your part in the break up, you will show your ex that you have the guts to open up.

Time apart is a step that many people find hard to deal with. All you want to do is go running back to them, forget any of the fighting ever happened and move on. Stop right there! If you do that you are just setting up your relationship for more failure. There needs to be some processing time - time to get over those spontaneous emotions that do not allow you to think straight. The time apart will vary for everyone. With time, heightened emotions have a chance to level out, and this will give you and your ex a better chance at a second chance.